Wants and Needs
"There are only two tragedies in life: one is not getting what one wants and the other is getting it." Oscar Wilde
We have to be careful about deciding what we want. Perhaps our dream is to be movie star. This is a dream that works out for only a select group of people; for these types of dreams, it is best to have an alternative plan.
We can work at a restaurant while we take classes and go out on auditions. This way, we are following our heart but we will not despair if our dream does not come to fruition.
Perhaps our destiny is to be a proficient restaurant manager. Or to take another example, what if our goal is to simply get rich?
Maybe we end up achieving this goal but also step on our family members and all prospective friends in the process. We achieve our goal but we likely end up unhappy nonetheless.
I will take stock of my goals and dreams today and decide if they are worthwhile. If they are not, I will try to come up with new ones.
Patricia Lorenz is an art-of-living writer and speaker and the author of a dozen books, including Life's Too Short to Fold Your Underwear and The 5 Things We Need to Be Happy.